domingo, 28 de janeiro de 2018

; we break, and we mend


There is this thing that we generally don't want to accept, but it's one of the biggest truths in life: Not everyone who comes into our lives is meant to stay forever.
It's really, really hard to hear that. Because after all we're humans, we care, we attach. We feel. We hold on too much, as long as it's possible, and even when we know that letting go is the healthy, right thing to do. We fight against it.
It's really, really hard to let go of people we love, even when they are bad for us, because we insert parts of ourselves into them. We take our deepest pains and decide to share them with the ones we love. We invite these people in. Take them by the hand and say “I will show you all the things I hide from everyone else”.
That's the biggest, hugest thing we can do. The fact that we allow that level of insight into our souls for someone, that we find it in our hearts to trust, thinking that those people will never do something that can hurt us. We do this all even while we know, logically, that humans have the ability to hurt, to carve wounds so deep that we feel like we’ll never recover.
And it's not something easy to let go.
But the fact that we’ve been hurt by someone we love and trust this much is nothing but humanity doing its thing. And sometimes we let this consume us.
This idea of love, this ideal of love, we think that if it feels so right, those people must be meant to stick by us for a lifetime. Because we’ve trusted them with everything we have; we can’t imagine, don’t want to imagine, a betrayal of our fragility that huge and unforgivable.
But life isn’t easy. Neither is love.
As we grow, we learn. We realize that the ones we let into our hearts aren’t always forever. That most of the time it’s no one’s fault when things don’t work out. And it hurts to feel those secret parts of you, the ones you never wanted to share with anyone else, be given back.
But not everyone can be permanent, no matter how badly we may want this to be true. That doesn’t make them bad people, it just means that some things aren’t meant to last forever.
And when you really think about it, life is filled with so many unpredictable variables. Sometimes circumstances change. Old feelings morph into new ones. New people enter while other simultaneously doesn’t fit anymore.
But regardless, days keep ending and starting again. The world keeps turning, the carousel never stops turning. Life goes on.
We'll feel that pain of someone’s absence. That crushing feeling against our lungs, the seeming lack of air. That sense that it was somehow our fault. But the point is we do our best with what we’re given at the time. Life is this weird thing we do while we try to figure out what the hell we’re doing.
Yes, some people are going to be forever, and some of them will go away. But it doesn’t mean that all was for nothing. Everything is a lesson in this life. Every happy memory, every unbearable moment. Sometimes we move on because it’s the best, the only thing that we can do. Or at least we try.
We break, and we mend. And we keep going on.

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